“If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.”
I’ve always thought that was unbelievably bad advice from Stephen Stills. It’s also pretty terrible to the one you’re with. I mean, hey, thanks for being a consolation prize, darling.
Falling for someone that isn’t into you happens to everyone at some point in life. There are countless movies, books, songs, poems, paintings, you name it, about the concept. In the immortal words of Charlie Brown, “There’s nothing like unrequited love to drain all the flavor out of a peanut butter sandwich.”
What happens though, when it isn’t a person you’ve fallen for, but a dog?
What happens when that dog you’ve become smitten with loves someone else instead? The heartbreak and anguish of calling its name only to have it run past your outstretched arms and into the arms of someone else.
It’s devastating. You try to bribe the dog with extra treats and belly scratches, but still they choose to cuddle with someone else at night.
Don’t fret, it’s not that the dog doesn’t love you. I’d wager you’re easily their second favorite human. There is nothing wrong with second place.
Sure, you could get out there and meet new dogs. You could even adopt a second dog in a ‘love the one you’re with’ scenario. It may even have the added bonus of making the first dog a little bit jealous, but you’d be doing it all for the wrong reasons.
You’d still be hung up on trying to win the affection of dog number one.
You won’t be able to move on until you’ve accepted that you aren’t the favorite. You have to be willing to take a back seat and let things play out. I know it’s not what you wanted to hear.
You wanted this to be an advice column on how to get your dog to love you more than it loves your partner, but it’s not. I’m sorry. Love happens, you can’t control it.